Consequences are the result of your choices. Every choice has a positive or a negative impact on you and how you experience any given situation. When we choose to re-act from a place of fear or anger, our result is typically one with an uncomfortable or negative impact.
When we choose to act and respond from a place of understanding and awareness, the result is typically one with a positive impact. Regardless of the outcome, taking full ownership and responsibility for the consequences of one’s actions and responses BEFORE they are acted upon leaves a person empowered. Reacting from a place of ego and ignorance ensures the outcome of dis-empowerment.
Next time you are faced with a difficult decision, take a moment to think through the consequences of your choice before you re-act or respond and you will move forward from a place of peace not guilt.
Consequence is a powerful coaching conversation and I invite you to have that conversation with me.
Choice is the decision one makes based on a responsible awareness of what truly is. In other words, based on the facts and not interpretations, what is the best choice I can make in this moment being fully aware of the consequences of that decision.
Consequences include both ‘positive’ and ‘negative’ outcomes. There is no right or wrong choice but rather a decision that you are willing to be fully responsible for once it is made. If our choice is at the effect of the decision then the outcome or reaction will be from a victim standpoint. If our choice is at the cause of a decision then the outcome or reaction will be one of ownership.
Every decision we are faced with requires a choice. Being fully aware of the ‘positive’ and ‘negative’ impact of that choice, and how it aligns with your integrity, will determine whether you will be at peace or at war with that decision. Do you choose to win (ego) or do you choose responsibility (integrity)?
Choice is a powerful coaching conversation and I invite you to have that conversation with me.
Judgement is the conversation we have with ourselves about what is so. Sometimes our judgement seem so accurate, they become our reality. And worse, there are times in life when we
believe the judgement others have about us are real.
One of the inherent flaws of the human brain is our ability to create stories in our minds that originate from our interpretations, and the remarkable thing about interpretation is that it is not real. Twenty people can look at the same thing and interpret it a different way. From this place of interpretation, they produce a judgement about that person, place or thing. Once that judgement has been made, it becomes the new reality for that person.
The fundamental defect in this process is the lens we look at the situation through, and we all have a set of lenses by which we view the world. Let’s say your lenses are green. If you take
those lenses off and replace them with yellow lenses then the exact same thing looks entirely different. When we become aware of the lenses (contexts) by which we view the world, the
interpretation, judgement and outcome of that situation becomes a choice. We can choose to see it this way, or we can choose to see it that way.
Becoming aware of your judgement is a powerful coaching conversation and I invite you to have that conversation with me.
The full impact of compassion can never be underestimated and, if we all chose to be MORE compassionate, the world could change forever.
Compassion is the energy and intention we bring to any situation, person or relationship. It is the kindness, patience, warmth and wisdom we provide, without any expectations.
Not to be confused with sympathy, which is an expression of sorrow as a response to suffering, compassion is an expression of caring and of warmth to the same situation. It provides the
space for empathy rather than apathy or sympathy.
Compassion without wisdom is dangerous. So too is wisdom without compassion. If we are compassionate without the wisdom to understand when we have given enough, we create the potential for burn-out and burden. If we provide wisdom with no regard for compassion, we create the potential for an environment of apathy, where being right is more important than being aware.
Moving through life is a dance between compassion AND wisdom. Knowing when to be more, or less, of either determines the experience you have in any given situation.
Compassion and wisdom are powerful coaching conversations and I invite you to have that conversation with me.
Integrity is the line in the sand where you stand for what is right, rather than what is convenient, in that moment. Aligning the thoughts you think, with the words you speak and the actions you take. Integrity takes a tremendous amount of awareness, along with wisdom and compassion, for both yourself and others. Without integrity, we are a boat without a rudder, flowing through life in whatever direction the water moves with the least amount of resistance.
Living in integrity requires us to act from a place that is aligned with our values in EVERY situation. It is the internal consistency which we live life by. How you conduct yourself in a line-up that is not moving or at a concert; how you listen to the homeless person on the street and your daughter’s music teacher; your ability to tell the truth when the truth is hard; your desire to support someone who has hurt you.
It is not putting yourself in harm’s way or being at the effect of another human being or situation, it is about how you conduct yourself in the face of those situations which determines your commitment to integrity.
Integrity is a powerful coaching conversation and I invite you to have that conversation with me.